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Aloneness is a time to reflect, integrate and contemplate. All of us need our cave, our inner sanctum where we can replenish, rejuvenate, and gain a fresh energy and perspective on what life has been delivering to us. The masculine part of us thrives on solitude, where all parts can re-gather, commune, and emerge anew.

Being alone is being all-one. You silently sound a Call for yourself to hear the voice of the soul and relax all parts of yourself into wholeness. This is a Redemptive Act: to recollect and reunite all parts of yourself around the Pillar of the One.

In this Gathering, we recollect ourselves and return to our source, our original wholeness. Aloneness gives you an opportunity to hear your true nature, the still small voice within, that always Knows. This Voice, always present, follows the guidance of your pure soul in all situations.

This still, small voice within serves to bring you into Divine Will that serves love. Surrendering to divine will allows our highest potential to manifest. It wants only the best for us. Often we do not know what is the best for us, what will lead us to true joy, happiness and the strength of unspeakable peace.

When we flow with divine will, it releases us from the compulsive need to do, and surrender to what is happening in our present experience of life right now. We see that our identity, our sense of value, our love, strength and peace, does not depend on doing.

Divine Will is most deeply felt and understood when you are alone. You can hear it better!

Aloneness is a soothing balm that welcomes deeper, softer emotions within you, gently, gradually, easing and cradling your heart in this tender flow. As Hafiz shares, ‘Don't surrender your loneliness so quickly. Let it cut more deep. Let it ferment and season you as few human or even divine ingredients can.’

Loneliness, sadness, tenderness and deep healing happens in the heart sitting in solitude. Our deepest pain, our need for love that has not been met and fulfilled, arises. We feel it, we surrender to its sacred tears, and become a little bit more whole.

Only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core in the other person without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without creating "the other," reducing the other into a thing, and without becoming addicted with the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.

—Osho

 Many of us are scared of true connection and true relationship because we have not truly connected with certain parts of ourselves. In connecting with our newly discovered aspects we can also let go of security devices and strategies that we have built as crutches for walking in the world, that all prevent us from being open, transparent and living in trust with self, other and life itself. In feeling seen, our isolated aloneness can dissipate into forgiveness and closeness. 

When you are willing to experience the depths of aloneness, you will discover connection everywhere. Aloneness and true silence is a powerful force that can carve us open. As Mooji shares, ‘Only when you can face and bear your own silence will you be free.’ Silence and stillness happen in mind, body and soul. In the mind, everything ceases. The body finally rests. The soul takes its rightful place as Ruler, and you are allowed to be the hero.

Silence cannot be forced. From the souls feeling wisdom, silence occurs when your emotions are felt, released and brought into wholeness. Any emotional disturbance still left in you manifests as the inability to go into silence. This is quite different to the minds (or spirit) perspective, which can train and use its willpower to go into quietness, and realms of light, bliss and power. As the soul is master of the spirit, and spirit is the vehicle of soul, true silence is rested in simply by there being no emotional healing left to do within you.

Solitude, when you are alone and without any human contact at all for a period of time, can centre you into your deeper Self. Science has shown that your brainwaves change after 72 hours in nature, without humans or electrical interference, i.e internet, phones, electricity. Your mood changes, becomes lighter, more connected, more rounded. Your mindset relaxes and you feel yourself again, without interference, emotional resonance or vibrational information from others. You can Rest in yourself, at last.

Your DNA is constantly emitting, emanating and vibrating information from its spiral helixes into your body, mind, soul and environment, to other people and your immediate surroundings, all the time. Whilst you are reading these words, your DNA is doing this. Going into solitude, in nature, alone, brings forth a wonderful invitation to resonate only with yourself, and find out more of who you are and what stuff you are made of.

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